For you. For what you’re trying to accomplish with your health and fitness goals. For the life you have created for yourself. But also, for your bestie, when she accomplishes one of her goals too.
Wait, what? That’s her thing. Why is that listed in my reasons to be happy??
Because she’s your bestie. Because you know her goals and you probably know every step she has taken to work toward them. She has likely shared and even overshared some pieces of her progress. And we’re talking about her health and fitness goals. Whatever they are, it wasn’t something she could just have her rich uncle buy for her. This is the kind of stuff that requires effort and sweat-equity and there’s not a lot of shortcuts offered in this space, so you know - she worked.
So be happy for her. For her progress. For the results. Because her progress in no way, shape or form negates your progress. Her accomplishments do not halt your progress. This isn’t a race where one is the winner and then the other is a clear loser. The only setback you can have in accomplishing your own goals is by the choices you make.
If your bestie set out to tackle a goal and she got it, you, as her bestie should be the first one standing, and the loudest clapper in her crowd. Buy her a trinket to commemorate her goal. Take her out for coffee or whatever it is the two of you drink when you’re together. Or at the very least send her a heartfelt text telling her that you are proud of her. Whatever you do - do something. And do it with all the happiness you have. Not all the happiness you can muster because you shouldn’t be digging deep to find happiness for your own best friend. It should be as automatic as cooing at a baby or talking baby talk to a puppy.
Happiness is fleeting and life can be hard. So when we have moments of happiness in our own lives, we should grab onto them and hold them for a moment. Likewise when your best bud has a moment of happiness, help her celebrate it. Make sure she knows it’s a-okay to feel that joy in front of you because you are happy for her too.
Let’s take the days of feeling petty jealousy for others’ accomplishments extinct like the dinosaurs. Let’s grab any and every reason to be happy that we can. Even if it means someone beat us to the finish. When that someone is someone you’re close to - be happy (genuinely happy) for them as well.